What are the Common Rules in Most Sober Houses?
Why Rules Matter
Every sober living home has its own personality, but most follow similar rules. These guidelines are about protecting the peace inside the house and the community's mindset. They help keep daily life smooth and make sure everyone feels secure. There's a real big benefit you may not see right away-when you commit to the rules, you’re also committing to yourself and your recovery.

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Getting Home Before Curfew
Curfew is about building healthy routines that support your recovery. Having a set time to be home each night helps create structure, keeps the house safe, and gives everyone the chance to wind down together. Like our house, most sober living homes set curfews for 10 pm, 11 pm on weekends.
Pass Randomized Drug Testing
Everyone staying in a sober home must be abstinent from drugs, including kratom, and alcohol. As a result, all residents must comply with randomized drug testing and breathalyzer tests. Testing positive for drugs or alcohol will mean you have to leave our sober living and go back to rehab, detox or another sober house. Drug tests may be administered randomly, at any time, and on any day of the week.
Respect Yourself, Your Housemates, and Their Space/Utilize Three People
Living with other people always has its challenges, and when it comes to sober living, unique struggles may arise both personal and interpersonal. To minimize this, we ask residents to utilize their in-house coach, supportive psychotherapist and 12-step sponsor. Understand that it is important to respect your housemates and their space. You must be quiet during quiet hours, stay out of others’ belongings, not eat anyone else’s food, and establish healthy boundaries between you and your housemates and that you regularly meet with the three required people.
​Clean Up After Yourself and Do Your Chores
During sober living you are expected to clean up after yourself, keep your room and personal spaces clean, and do chores. We have a chore list with chore assignments that rotate regularly from one house member to another, ensuring that everyone does their fair share in taking care of the home.
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No Unapproved Visitors
Sober living homes are designed to promote safety and sobriety, so visitors are usually prohibited. This is because it is difficult to regulate the behavior of visitors. They could make others feel uncomfortable or even bring drugs or alcohol into the home. Out of respect for everyone’s safe space, you will be asked to visit with friends in public places rather than at your sober living home.
​Attend 12-Step Support Groups
Most sober-living homes in Connecticut require residents to attend regular 12-Step meetings. You are required to attend 90 meetings the first 90 days and, after that, a minimum of 5 each week and include the AA meeting every Wednesday at our house. Attending meetings will help you stay on track in your recovery and reduce the risk of relapse. We're located conveniently near numerous 12-Step houses or meeting spots. In fact, we are in an area with so many meetings, we recently became our own AA district. There are great NA, Dharma and SMART meetings here too.
​MAT and Other Medications
We accept Suboxone under 10mg with a planned taper. We accept Sublacaid. We accept and have lockers for Gabapentin.
Attend House Meetings, Morning Workshops, Share Dinners, and ALUMNI Functions*
In addition to regular 12-Step meetings, you are required to attend our weekly house meeting and the weekly AA meeting . A blend of peer and staff-led, we discuss any recovery topic that has come to the forefront and come up with ideas. Chores rotate every other week and any important announcements, like weekend group activities, may be made. We also have morning workshops for days you are not at work or IOP and share dinners every evening unless you are at work or therapy. Our annual ALUMNI lunch is held every September at a rented beach house.
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Find IOP, PHP, School or Work In the Community
​We ask each guest to find something to do outside of the house for approximately 30-40 hours per week.
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No New Sexual Relationships
Get through the steps first and establish a lifestyle first.
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Have Something of Purpose to Do
Occupy your time with work, school or an intense passion. It gets you out of the house and into the communiry.
